One of my friends asked me to think about this and express my views on it. The topic being “love cannot be true if it fulfills emotional, physical, intellectual or any kind of need”. Well it is a bit confusing for me as well. But I thought of jotting down few thoughts that came to my mind.
Firstly, when one expects something out of a person, one becomes selfish. Selfishness is contradictory to the ideal definition of love.
Secondly, expectations cause disappointment and one keeps depending for one’s needs on others. Love is on the other hand not depending, but letting someone depend on you. Strange.
Also, with these restrictions, true love is rare, as one of the above stated needs (emotional, physical…blah blah ) is the initiator of the feelings in most of the cases. We want someone to be there, to listen and so on. Why will anyone need or love someone if one isn’t getting anything out of it in today’s world? So, according to my small brain of limited thinking capacity, yes the statement made is true, but only for divine love which is no where to be found on earth now. Hence, let’s be happy and content even if we human beings look out for fulfilling our needs through love, as whatever it is, isn’t it mutual? So we are nobody to criticize others. We all are the same.
Firstly, when one expects something out of a person, one becomes selfish. Selfishness is contradictory to the ideal definition of love.
Secondly, expectations cause disappointment and one keeps depending for one’s needs on others. Love is on the other hand not depending, but letting someone depend on you. Strange.
Also, with these restrictions, true love is rare, as one of the above stated needs (emotional, physical…blah blah ) is the initiator of the feelings in most of the cases. We want someone to be there, to listen and so on. Why will anyone need or love someone if one isn’t getting anything out of it in today’s world? So, according to my small brain of limited thinking capacity, yes the statement made is true, but only for divine love which is no where to be found on earth now. Hence, let’s be happy and content even if we human beings look out for fulfilling our needs through love, as whatever it is, isn’t it mutual? So we are nobody to criticize others. We all are the same.
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" i just saw that face in that crowd and i knew he/ she is the one"," i just knew she is the one i dream of", " it was really love at first site"... all this doesnt happen!! does it?? u first meet a person, u talk to him bcoz... u spend some time n slowly u realize or rather feel this might be the one...and comeon till u dont like talking to someone... till u dont connect to someone ... till u dont get happiness, satisfaction, calm, peace out of it... whats the point.... none whatsoever!! and is being happy nota need.?? ok our mothers love us bcoz we r a part of them bt dont we love our parennts bcoz we feel we can depend on them, bcoz we feel secure n safe in their presence... now ok thats selfish bt that is still love... same amount of effort, concern , care, passion, love, emotions goes into any kind of love... i dont really understand this selflessness thing... love is when u give more importance to the other person's need rather than urs... n once that happens who cares about the initialization.... its not about the initializing force, its about the driving force i guess!!
@ pri
yes maybe ur rite!! what i wanna say is that its high time we stop expecting such stuff and be happy with the selfish version of it..!:)
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